By Diwas Adhikari
Telephone rings. Father doesn’t want to talk to the person who just called. He says, “Say I am not home”. Son picks up the phone and tells exactly the same.
Son comes home exactly in time after bunking the whole 5 lectures. Father asks, “How was the class?” He replies, “It was good”.
“Mum I am going to my Friends house for combine study” Daughter says. Daughter comes home after a romantic date with her boyfriend. No one knows in home.
A student didn’t do his homework. Teacher comes to class and checks homework. Teacher asks, “Why”. He replies, “I forget at Home”.
Daughter in law goes to shopping for a whole day and comes back home and sleeps saying she is not feeling well.
These are just few examples from daily life. This is how our everyday life is going in Nepal. I personally have spoken so many lies to my parents and friends and other people; which I even don’t remember. The same way everyone is lying to every other people. No one speaks the truth. This is just like our culture. We start our day with lies and end it with lies. We never regret for that. Of course when someone speaks lies us, we become angry but we forget the bunch of lies that we spoke to other and made other people angry.
Everyone knows that someone is lying but also they don’t tell that to the person who is speaking lie rather they just take it to themselves and they do the same. I don’t want to tell lies. But there are so many situations that made me to speak bunch of lies.
I remember my school days when I think of lies. I was not an extra ordinary student who was always first. I had problem in my studies. But my teachers they never asked me why I didn’t do my homework. They just came with a pipe in hand and they start to beat for being slow and not doing my home works. Later what the small children like me learn is; don’t tell truth. If you speak truth you will be beaten. I always lied to my parents because if I tell the truth my parent would definitely beat me. And to escape those physical tortures I used to lie and it became habit. It is just my case. I guess this is the case of most of the students that are facing the problems.
I came here in Germany before one year and I thought of the lies. Here people they don’t lie to you. You can feel that. I was feeling really guilty for the first time that I spoke so many lies to my parent, family and the people I know. And then I thought If the people in this world can live without lying, why can’t I? I decided not to lie and after that I stopped lying. I first felt uncomfortable for few days to behave like that. But I got used to with this and now I don’t lie and I try to tell people to speak truth.
I once saw in airport on my transit. A small girl (about 4 years old) went to the shop and she bought a chocolate and she returned. I was also in the same queue and the small girl she came back again to tell thank you. And then she went back. I looked at her, she was with her dad and mom and then I thought good things starts from home. After that incident I promised myself to teach my children the good habit and the truth. And whatever you learn in your childhood is what you will keep doing for your lifetime.